The Piece of Advice All Bloggers Must Live By

This jubilant story is dedicated to my Style Collective sisters who gave me the push — actually, the virtual slap in the face and bottle of wine — I needed to get over my sorrowful worries and to just keep swimming.

Read this if you’re a blogger that still hasn’t gotten to the success you dreamed of. Is there a part of you ready to give everything you’ve worked so hard for up?  If there is still a tiny part of you that wants to give it your all (again) before giving up, then read this.

Picture this: a girl sitting with what looks like to be a severe condition of ADHD. She’s guzzling down coffee, beating the record for infinite hours of Instagram scrolling and unnecessary liking while simultaneously skimming through old vogue issues. Her internet browser has an uncountable number of open tabs to fashion bloggers, Woody Allen films, and beautiful actresses. blogging advice That would be me. Obsessing over each and every one of those beautiful women, swearing that I needed to be just like her. Fictional or non-fictional, I needed to somehow portray that character as if it was my life being documented. Even as I write these words, my mind is drawn to the wittiness of Annie Hall or the dreaminess of Marion Cotillard in Midnight in Paris.

If I were a lead in a movie, I would be the girl who bought a pair of army pants and flip-flops because Regina George wore army pants and flip-flops.

Pretty girls and influential bloggers will do this to you. Reading and visualizing the lives of enviable bloggers is how I began to blog in the first place. Except, I seemed to get lost in the heat of it all from time to time. I wanted to do be the exception of instant success, knowing it was impossible. Then, I’d give it up blogging all together. And much later, look up to a new blogger to look up to and mimic my life (and blog by). You can call this, my vicious (make-believe) cycle. Giving up everything and jumping back in as if nothing happened; a love-hate relationship with being the person I wasn’t for all to see.

That wasn’t me. It was a made up figment created by the film-inspired imagination of mine. I hated myself for not knowing how to jump out of it. Until one day, I did. I owe all of this to the blogging community I wish I had been a part of from the very beginning, Style Collective.

patchwork + denim

Be Yourself.

Counting all the posts I’ve read on always sta “be yourself, you know?” would be impossible. I thought it was stupid. Why the hell wouldn’t I be myself? I write, I play dress up, and people know who I am just as much as I know myself. Well, none of that is true. First and most importantly, your readers don’t know who you are. Also, you aren’t just playing dress up and no, you’re not just writing, you’re telling a story; your story.

This business to blog has become an overwhelming chaos of saturation that sadly leaves a kiddie-sized pool of us lost between the pull of the current that makes it impossible to find even the slightest glimpse of land. Swimming into an ocean-sized feed of beautiful bloggers, perfect flat-lays, and insanely thematic Instagram feeds is fucking intimidating! Indubitably, it can be a tiny bit depressing and it slightly makes you feel like you should be that perfect to be just as successful.

There is one thing I’ve learned from my  Style Collective sisters and it’s how important it is to be yourself. You don’t have to be an expert but you need to be passionate. If you share your story, if you swim along the current, you will get to places you never thought you would find. With that said, your followers are here for you and they want to be your friend, They will not only come to you for advice, but they want to feel like they genuinely relate to you. Because honey, your readers are not looking for the next Regina George.

So who am I? I’m a beer drinking fashion addict with a shopping problem. I’m messy writer with pretty fantastic (un)organizational skills. 

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34 Comments

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:39 am

      Thank you Caitlin! Isn’t the patchwork super cute?!

  1. Liz
    November 10, 2016 / 12:20 am

    This is so good! I compare myself to successful pretty bloggers every time I open my Instagram feed and everyday I feel like I’ve failed. But in the morning I try again.

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:41 am

      I’m guilty of doing the same! But I’ve noticed so much more engagement when I’m myself and say what I feel! It makes me feel like I’m succeeding more and more each day!

  2. Nataly
    November 11, 2016 / 11:14 am

    I love this skirt and the post is so great! I always compare myself to others and it is hard not to especially in blogging!

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:49 am

      Thank you so much! I know I totally feel you!

  3. November 11, 2016 / 11:17 am

    Love this fun skirt! You look gorgeous girl!

  4. November 11, 2016 / 11:17 am

    Girrrrrrrrrl this is so good. SO happy to be a part of the Style Collective sisterhood with you. You are totally right in needing to focus on being yourself and true to YOU! Your sense of style is amazing, by the way 🙂 Comparison can kill so many positives. Be you & own it, babe! 🙂

    xox,
    Kristin
    http://www.amidwesternmix.com

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:52 am

      Thanks Kristin! Your words are so genuine and motivational! I’m so happy to have you in this long list of sisters!

  5. November 11, 2016 / 11:25 am

    Wow, such an amazing post! Keep being you girly. I love our Sc sisterhood.

  6. November 11, 2016 / 11:58 am

    Definitely important to stay true to yourself in blogging! I found the best way to not beat yourself up over blogger envy is to just realize most of it takes a lot of hard work and time. More often than not, perception isn’t realistic and it’s best to just stay away from the competition by being yourself and focusing on you. Great post girl!

    xo Mariam
    http://www.thepetitebijou.com

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:53 am

      Mariam this is so true! Being authentic and try to yourself makes you so different from the rest and your followers truly appreciate you for it! I just wish I would’ve paid attention to this a little soon!

  7. November 11, 2016 / 1:06 pm

    PHENOMENAL post babe! I totally know the feeling so well, and comparison is the key to kill inspiration for sure! In fact, when I find that I am falling into that trap (it happens!), I take a blog detox and I actually don’t ready ANY blogs to help get my voice & groove back. Also I love that you are talking about this because I think as bloggers it happens to us all!! xx Shannon

    • November 16, 2016 / 11:57 am

      I love that Shannon! I always overload when I need inspiration but I’m going to try and take a little blog detox to get some personal inspo!

  8. November 11, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    Trust me girl, we have ALL been there. I constantly need to remind myself that we are all on our own paths and no two paths will take us on the same journey. Just keep swimming, like you said, and stay motivated. YOU GOT THIS!
    http://stopdropandvogue.com

  9. vanessa
    November 11, 2016 / 3:26 pm

    Love this! So inspirational! I’m so happy I learned to stop comparing myself to other around high school – life is so much better that way!

    Have a great weekend!

    Vanessa | http://www.vanessarenae.com

    • November 16, 2016 / 12:02 pm

      Thanks Vanessa! I’m so glad you liked my post! You’re smart I should’ve done the same, it just took me a little while longer!

  10. November 11, 2016 / 5:39 pm

    This was just what I needed to hear! Thank you for that! I agree sometimes it’s overwhelming and there is a feeling that you need to be perfect to compete. Thank you for reminding me that I always wanted to be real and true. That is what always mad me feel like I could make it. Xo Jen http://abeautifulinspiration.com

  11. November 12, 2016 / 3:08 pm

    We should really be yourself, you are so right! Like your cool look <3
    Many thanks for your kind comment on my blog. Do you want to follow each other?
    xx Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

    • November 16, 2016 / 12:05 pm

      Thanks Rena! I’ll be following you on Bloglovin and Instagram!

  12. November 14, 2016 / 11:02 am

    Katerine, I love how you styled this skirt! Thanks for continuing to inspire me!

    • November 16, 2016 / 12:05 pm

      Thank you so much, Elizabeth! I’m happy I inspired you with this post.

    • November 16, 2016 / 12:06 pm

      Thanks you so much, Molly! I’m happy you liked this list and I’ll keep shining 🙂

    • November 16, 2016 / 9:58 am

      Thanks so much Amy! I’m super happy I found this sisterhood too!

  13. November 17, 2016 / 6:57 am

    Such an inspiring article, girl. From time to time i get a little lost, but at the end of the day we need to keep focus in order to stay true to ourselves.
    I believe that success becomes with hard work and authenticity. I hope i’m right.
    Anyway, i stumbled upon your blog and kind of get addicted to it. Keep up the good work.
    Enjoy your day, girl.
    lefashionaire.com

  14. December 22, 2016 / 12:28 am

    So true! It’s hard not to compare! Thanks for sharing this!
    Side note: super cute skirt!

    xx,
    Nikki

    thenikkistandard.com

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